Marriage Counseling

Many married couples get advice that suggests keeping issues behind closed doors and are urged away from consulting a professional marriage counselor when the waves get rough. This is the last thing a marriage needs. So often a marriage needs the guidance and perspective of a trained marriage counselor to help move the relationship in a healthy direction. Marriage counseling is a non-judgmental space where married couples work through the challenges that they cannot get past.

Marriage counseling can help to breathe life back into your marriage by identifying and healing resentments, increasing healthy communication, and removing blocks like; projection, minimization, blame, and defensiveness that get in the way of connection.  

When it comes to romance and relationships, lovely dream-like stories about getting married are all the rage. They include concepts like; love is all you need, and love is enough to get anyone through hard times.  It is easy to get caught in the social trap of wanting everyone to see the relationship as wonderful and perfect. With that being said, many married couples feel the need to avoid admitting any problems in their marriage, as this can be scary, and people do not want to shatter their glass house. 

In a marriage, hiding your problems will not solve them. Marriage counseling can help the couple get perspective on problems being opportunities for growth and connection instead of something to hide from family and friends.

When married couples work on their relationship they are more satisfied long term. Marriage counseling gives  the couple resilience to face life together because they faced their challenges together in counseling and were able to overcome, connect and  learn to feel safe with each other. 

Our social structure thrives on drama and gossip. When married couples find themselves sharing about their relationships, the focus can often slant toward their partner's negative behaviors. Married couples will subconsciously do this to try to get ahead of judgment from others.  

Marriage counseling can help couples shift their perspective from perpetuating problems to solving problems. Can you imagine the shift that could happen if couples  were sharing the ways they were  able to rise above conflict? Can you imagine conversations, where wives are speaking about how their spouse is making strides to become a better partner? And husbands sharing how their spouses are a great support and actually hear them when they speak because of the work they did in marriage counseling?

A mindset shift is what is needed and marriage counseling will do just that. Many couples come into marriage counseling having made several attempts on their own to fix recurring problems in their marriage but they just don’t seem to go away. This can sometimes compound the fear that either spouse is the problem in the relationship.

Marriage counseling will not advise the couple on who the problem is, rather marriage counseling will help married couples break up the problem cycles so they can see their way out. Once the couple has learned how to move through their relationship, they will do so with ease together. Marriage counseling can be a great reassurance that the problem does not lie with the people, the problem lies in the way the couple interacts and the beliefs they hold about marriage and each other. 

Marriage counseling can be a resurgence. When a married couple can find a guide who will walk them toward connection and help process their blocks, the relationship will shine from the inside out. The couple will find themselves in a relationship that they are authentically happy about and  one that neither of them can stop themselves from speaking about positively.

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