The Gottman Method

Dr. John Gottman is famous for his contribution to relationship research. He has dedicated over 40 years to relationships; researching the predictors of divorce and the indicators of relationship longevity. The Gottman Method empowers clients with the knowledge to set up their relationship for success, not to mention Gottman trained therapists can hone in on where those predictors of divorce live in the relationship. 

The Gottman Method uses the Sound Relationship House as the metaphor for a secure relationship. He has taken the data from his research and developed this metaphor to walk couples through the seven different floors of this house to a more secure and fulfilling relationship. Some of the floors include; building fondness and admiration, turning towards each other, and creating shared meaning. 

Working with a therapist who is trained in the Gottman Method gives a couple concrete understanding of how to develop a healthy relationship. The Gottman Method focuses on these three primary areas; friendship, ability to manage conflict, and creating shared goals. 

One of the most unique aspects to the Gottman Method is the way he separates conflict in two categories; solvable problems and perpetual problems. The Gottman Method provides interventions to resolve solvable problems and helps the couple navigate perpetual problems by showing couples how to live with differences in a healthy way. 

Gottman Workshops, such as Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, can be a great way to get an intensive experience of the Gottman Method over the course of a weekend. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Program is a workshop that takes you through the 7 principles that make a marriage work. Married couples, long term relationships, couples who live together can benefit from the workshop. The workshop takes you through the Sound Relationship House, by providing you with psycho-education, exercises, and examples to move you through the seven floors to create the relationship you want.

Couples will develop a new skill set and will have new tools at their disposal after completion of the  Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work program.

Seven Floors of the Sound Relationship House