Couples Therapy 

Wherever you find yourself in relationship, be it married, engaged, living together, couples therapy is for you. 

Couples therapy can be a great tool to increase relationship satisfaction. Relationships have peaks and valleys. Life can be exciting, sometimes scary, and even sad. When two people come together, they have access to great strength. Couples therapy can help the couple fortify their strengths and handle life
events with greater ease as they come. Here are some ways couples therapy can be useful during those transitional times.

Transitions can be a great time to enter into couples therapy.

Becoming new parents! There is no blueprint for becoming new parents. Couples don’t typically sit down and whiteboard out how they are going to tackle the first year of being parents. New parents are shellshocked the first year of parenthood. They don’t have the bandwidth to create the routines and schedules that fully support the stress and sleeplessness they are going through. Couples therapy can help new parents practice consideration and thoughtfulness. The couple is prime for identifying and asking for needs to be met during that time and therapy can help.

When a partner loses their job! There is no roadmap for this either. Usually, there is a panicked conversation about what to do and then the couple typically jumps in to “fix it.” The loss of a job can tap into shame and the person who lost their job can begin to feel inadequate or feel fear they may be seen differently by their partner. Couples therapy can be used to create closeness and process those fears that can arise when an unexpected loss happens. Couples therapy can provide education on how to
maintain value in their relationship through challenging times. Couples can learn how to make difficult conversations easier, how to connect to their partner when they are afraid or upset, and how to give the other the support they need. Couples therapy can help generate conversations between couples that would not happen otherwise. 

Other areas that they can benefit from couples therapy include healing resentments, and dissolving the pain and frustration from unmet expectations. Couples therapy can help navigate a couple through old resentments that may be running rampant in the background. When couples don’t know how to resolve issues, resentment can form. And resentments can find a roundabout way to generate conflict in relationships where both people are left wondering what happened. Resentments once healed, neutralize and the couple feels lighter. Couples therapy can help to uncover what the couple needs to feel loved and connected. Underneath expectations are needs that have gone unnoticed, unmet, or unrealized.

Couples therapy can be a rewarding endeavor and can bring more clarity into the relationship. Couples therapy can help a couple develop relational intelligence, interdependence, and a more fulfilling connection. Couples deserve to enjoy their relationship.